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And what I can tell you is that outness and CAFABness makes Nex' story way more interesting to you than the implicit transmisogyny that bigoted ideologues like you frame as toxic masculinity.

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Redlands, CA. This disheartening message from Safe Redlands Schools: "The person handling the insurance required for event permits in our local parks has unilaterally decided to politicize the tragic death of a gender queer teenager. What’s wild is she literally told our organizer that no one has EVER asked for a permit for a vigil before. I can’t." They are holding the vigil regardless. (Sorry for cross-duplication. I posted in the wrong thread the first time)

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Hugs CD, thank you for having the strength to cover this.

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LGBTQ advocacy groups have described Nex’s death as a “hate crime”, and linked it to the “hateful rhetoric spewed by leaders in our state” & the Libs of TikTok account run by far-right social media influencer Chaya Raichik.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/nex-benedict-dead-oklahoma-b2499332.html

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Out this morning (Weds), from Judd Legum's Popular Information: https://popular.info/p/nex-benedict-matters

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In the No Surprise Dept: My colleague Lance Preston, Rainbow Youth Project CEO/founder reports that calls from Oklahoma have *tripled* over the past 72 hours.

https://okcfox.com/news/local/crisis-calls-oklahoma-from-the-2s-lgbtq-youth-community-triple-within-72-hours-days-after-owasso-student-dies-beaten-in-school-bathroom-hospital-bullying-triggers-hotline-mental-health-16-year-old-nonbinary

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Read about this poor girl this morning , this makes me so ill . Now i am a 53 yr old male , I consider myself a “man’s “man , i ride a harley , work construction , and drink beer at night , a average blue collar American male . Transgender , gay LBGTQ , non binary , i do not care , in the end we are all human , feel pain , and have feelings . Unless you are a complete psychopathic person could you do this to someone based on who they are . Now i have been

In prison , a 1%er motorcycle club , and am a veteran . I have seen extreme violence and murders . All of them involved an act of war , These 3 girls did just that , they executed a seemingly sweet , innocent 15 yr old in a act of war declared on this certain group of people . I apologize if i don't use the proper vernacular as i don't know too much about non -binary people and do not wish to offend , But from what i gather , War has been declared against people like this person who was beaten in Oklahoma by some woman who was appointed to the district this school resides in . So these girls were basically soldiers committing this terrible crime . Lets treat them like the killers they are , try them as adults , why are their no charges being filed yet ? Why are CNN and the major networks not covering this ? Seems to me the police and the school are protecting these 3 scumbags . Maybe the federal govt should get involved ? Ya know i was speaking to a transgender person on Tik Tok who lives there (OK) and this person told me her and her spouse can’t walk the street w/o fearing an assault or being harassed . Wtf did i go fight for this country when we can’t let people be free to choose who they want to be ? I am really disgusted w my countrymen and women , 15 yrs old …….had not even lived life yet , Nex benedict was a human being , I want to see these 3 animals tried as adults , I want them to experience the terror Nex felt. They will get that in prison , trust in that . My condolences to Nex’s family , may you get the justice and closure you deserve . To the dirtbags that beat Nex …..I hope you suffer endlessly in prison and in the darkest pit of hell when it’s your turn . And may no one show you mercy …ever.

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Thank you for that. Trust, you just proved yourself to be far above the "average blue collar American male." You could show a lot of guys what a "man's man" really is. That would apply to any gender or identity.

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Where are the Feds? To me, this looks like a civil rights violation and a hate crime. Was calling an ambulance against some rule that would get school staff in trouble? Ditto for a police report.

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I am so sorry. This was a child. A human child. I cannot deal. Who thinks this is the way to deal with things you don't understand? I despair for the human race.

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When will it stop? My son was murdered by bullies in eastern Washington state at the age of 19 for being gay. The system told some of his bullies (through their actions) that what they did was ok. Just like with nex's bullies. WHY HAVE THEY NOT BEEN ARRESTED?!

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I have nothing but love for you. I'm so sorry for what you're feeling. See my comment above about contacting me if you need someone to talk to.

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Little baby. 😢 Goddammit I'm so sorry the world let them down. Fuck.

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That poor child. This is America. And these unreconstructed asshole do have the power to do this because of how the USA is organized.

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Fucking disgusting. This story is being massively underreported. They got into a fight? They were cornered by three people and BEATEN. I know we must wait to find out the full details, but I'm not holding my breath that the assault isn't somehow related.

When that autopsy comes out, they better put Ryan Walters and every other fear mongering shithead that's been contributing to this mass hysteria on it as cause of death.

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We bury yet another beautiful soul taken by hate. Hate made law by those in power. So it goes.

The hate it takes to beat someone to death. Teenagers carefully taught to hate, to conform, to judge. Words fail me so here are Vonnegut’s:

“There’s only one rule that I know of, babies. God damn it you’ve got to be kind”

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Please continue to smear this all over the interwebz, CD.

This needs screamed 24/7/365.

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That's my job.

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You're not alone on the job, either.

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[seethes with unmitigated, furiously embittered rage]

I now want to do some serious damage to EVERY one of those adults who stood quietly by, did NOT call for emergency assistance for Brianna Ghey and turned their backs on her, perpetuating her heartbreaking death.

Feigned "innocence" must be unequivocally demonstrated to be the antithesis of "bliss" for these incomprehensibly callous accomplices to cold blooded murder.

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